Empowering parents through education and support to move from reaction to response thereby allowing them to parent from a place of love rather than fear.
Children misbehave when they have a mistaken belief that their actions will bring them a sense of belonging and significance. If we treat children with respect, we encourage them to find their significance and sense of belonging in more positive ways. I draw on a love-based model of parenting called Positive Discipline. I chose this path because it builds self-esteem and strengthens relationships.
This is a model that goes beyond imposing consequences and rewards intended to control behavior. Many parental struggles result from such attempts to exert control over children. I coach parents to use tools to encourage and influence their children.
Where did we get the idea that in order to get children to do better, we have to first make them feel worse? Children do better when they feel better. And though punishment may stop behavior for the moment, the long-term results are usually negative—rebellion, resentment, revenge, or retreat into sneakiness or low self-esteem. We’ll focus on solutions based on kindness, firmness, dignity and respect.